Tuesday, September 23, 2008

No More Mister Nice Guy

So, what kind of guy are you? Do people know where you stand on issues, or do you smile and let people guess? Do you admit your mistakes and move on, or do you hide them and fret? Do you embrace conflict when defending what is right, or do you avoid conflict at all costs? Are you a nice guy or a good guy? There is a difference.

Many men today have been raised to be nice guys. (Look at the lead male character in most any chick flick.) They are taught early on that hitting, pushing, and fighting are wrong. Nice guys never hit, push, or fight. Right? We are told to be nice and turn the other cheek.

Stop already... these are the kind of guys whose man card needs to be revoked. Occasionally, standing up for what's important can result in some bruises. We don't need to walk around with a chip on our shoulder, and we don't need to be a jerk or bully, but standing up for what is right requires no apology.

We have been taught that Jesus was loving, kind, compassionate, and suffered in silence. At times, Jesus was all of those things, but that's only part of the story. We often neglect to include how He got Himself in "trouble." Jesus was bold, outspoken, powerful, occasionally disruptive and confrontational, and He was always angered at sin. He took action. He got in the face of authority, and He even got physical from time to time (remember the money changers in the temple? Matt 21:12). Jesus did not fear even those who could make Him suffer. His motivation was always true and holy. Jesus is the Son of God, the Savior of the world; He is also a leader that inspires. Jesus was focused on what is good, which at times made Him do some things that many would say were "not nice."

There's nothing wrong with being a "nice guy," but it shouldn't be at the expense of being a "good guy." A good guy will stand up for what is right, call a spade a spade, and will not tolerate those that take advantage of others. A good guy must sometimes be powerful and show strength. He must be the leader his family, community, and work needs.

Don't be confused: nice is nice and good is good, but they are not always the same thing.

Is there a time to be a nice guy? Is there a time to be a good guy?


John T Moeller said...

If you want an eye changing education try posting often on a daily Newspaper and saying what you believe. You will soon feel the courage to stand up for your Christian beliefs. Persecution can start just past the keyboard. It might be neat to find a place here where a Christian is not a minority.

Tony said...

It's pretty obvious that Adam was right there in the Garden of Eden when the devil was tempting Eve. How different might things have been if Adam would have stood up like a man and told his wife Satan was lying to her?